Biblical Reasons To Wait For Marriage Before Having Sex

The Risk of Damaging Your Testimony As A Christian

While it is commonly known amongst Christians that Christians are expected to wait until marriage for sex, there is also this expectation for Christians from the non - Christian world. You have probably felt this pressure in your school when others say " Christians aren't suppose to do this or that." If you have sex before marriage then you may damage your ability to witness as a Christian amongst your peers. Some Christian teenagers think that their peers will not know about their sexual activities, but at most high school students know, gossip travels fast, and it is best ' to remain blameless.'

The Risk of Disobeying God

The True Love Waits organization tells us: " The Bible, time after time tells us to flee sexual sins. - 1 Corinthians 6 : 18

Why? Because it is a major strategy of the devil to sabotage God's work on Earth."

" It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality " - 1 Thessalonians 4 : 3

While having sexual relations outside of marriage is not going to send you straight to hell, there is a risk of damaging your relationship with God. As Christians it is important to always strive to develop a growing relationship with God.

Don't you know that those who do wrong will have no share in the Kingdom of God? Don't fool yourselves. Those who indulge in sexual sin, who are idol worshipers, adulterers, male prostitutes, homosexuals, thieves, greedy people, drunkards, abusers, and swindlers - none of these will have a share in the Kingdom of God - l Corinthians 6 : 9 - 10

The Risk of Mistreating Opposite Sex

" Treat younger men as brothers, older women as mothers, and younger women as sisters, with absolute purity' - l Timothy 5 : 1 - 2

The Risk of Broken Relationship with God & Others

" Blessed are the pure in heart for they will see God " - Matthew 5 : 8

" If a man commits adultery with the wife of his neighbor, both the adulterer and the adulteress shall be put to death" - Lev 20 : 10; cf. 18 : 20; Deuteronomy 22 : 22-24

" If a man happens to meet in a town a virgin pledged to be married and he sleeps with her, you shall take both of them to the gate of that town and stone them to death.." - Deuteronomy 22 : 23 - 24

The Risk of Adultery

Since they are no longer two but one, let no one separate them, for God has joined them together - Matthew 19 : 6

The Risk of Defiling Marriage Relationship

Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral - Hebrew 13 : 4

The Risk of Defiling Purity of Heart

The New Testament goes beyond the Old Testament by internalizing the whole sexuality of a person and placing it within the context of motivation. Jesus emphasized that to entertain lustful desires toward a person of the opposite sex outside marriage means to be guilty of adultery ( Matt 5 : 27 - 28 ). The reason for this is that defilement
comes not only from outward acts but also from inward thoughts, which in Biblical imagery derive from the heart : " Out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, fornication, theft, false witness, slander. These are what defile a man " ( Matt 15 : 19 - 20 )

The Risk of Uncontrollable Passion

" For you know what instructions we gave you through the Lord Jesus. For this is the will of God, your sanctification ; that you abstain from unchastity ( sexual immorality ); that each of you know how to take a wife for himself in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like heaven who do not know God " - Thess 4 : 2 - 5

Risk of Temporary Sexual Relationships : Prostitution or Pre - marital Sex

Here Paul admonishes those who had sexual urges to satisfy them by entering not into temporary relationships " in the passion of lust like the heathen who do not know God," but into permanent marital relationships. Such relationships are to be characterized by " holiness and honor. " Paul is most explicit in his condemnation of prostitution.

" Do you now know that he who joins himself to a prostitute becomes one body with her? For, as it is written, ' The two shall become one flesh.' But he who is unified to the Lord becomes one spirit with Him. Shun immorality. Every other sin which a man commits is outside the body; but the immoral man sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, which you have from God? You are not your own; you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body " 1 Cor. 6 : 16 - 20

Risk of Unnecessary Soul Ties & Lost of Intimate Bond

In this passage, Paul helps us to see why the Bible strongly condemns sex outside marriage. Sex represents the most intimate of all the interpersonal relationships, expressing a " one - flesh " unity of total commitment. Such a unity of commitment cannot be expressed or experienced in a casual sexual union with a prostitute where the concern is purely commercial and recreational. The only oneness experienced in such sexual unions is the oneness of sexual immorality. Sexual immorality is serious because it affects the individual more deeply and permanently than any other sin. Paul describes it as a sin committed inside the body: " Every other sin which a man commits is outside the body; but the immoral man sins against his own body " 1 Cor. 6 : 18

It might be objected that all sins of sensuality such as gluttony or drunkenness affect a person inside the body. Yet they do not have the same permanent effect on the personality as the sin of fornication. Indulgence in eating or drinking can be overcome, stolen goods can be returned, lies can be retracted and replaced by the truth. But the sexual act, once committed with another person, cannot be undone. A radical change has taken place in the interpersonal relationship of the couple involved that can never be undone. Something indelible has stamped on them both forever. Even with a prostitute, sexual union leaves its permanent mark. It is a spot in the consciousness that cannot be removed. " The immoral man sins against his own body. "

Risk of Sex Without Commitment

" For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife and the two will become one flesh " - Ephesians 5 : 31

Risk of Sex Without Intimacy

" Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? " - l Corinthians 6 : 16

" For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife and the two will become one flesh " - Ephesians 5 : 31