It Is Better To Have Loved And Be Hurt Than Not To Have Loved At All

" It is better to have loved and be hurt than not to have loved at all "

Anyone has opinion about this topic?

I get this topic on Thursday. Miss Yeoh gave us 41 topic for 41 girls and we are going to type an essay and present as speaking on Thursday. So how am i going to begin this essay?


According to this topic, i will choose to have loved and be hurt than not to have loved at all. Why do i say so?

Love, this word is very miracle. Through the Oxford dictionary, the definition of the word ' love ' is a strong feeling of affection for somebody that you are sexually attracted to. But through the Bible, it says that “Love is always patient and kind; it is never jealous, love is never boastful or conceited; it is never rude or selfish; it does not take offense, and is not resentful. Love takes no pleasure in other people’s sins but delights in the truth; it is always ready to excuse, to trust, to hope, and to endure whatever comes”.

The feeling of having love is very sweet, loving, you would want to do the best of you for the particular guy or girl, you will care much on everything about them. There is some happiness and joy that only love relationship could give you. It is a great experience in our life. If we have been in love and be hurt before, then we will know how to choose our dream guys or girls in the future.

I believe that as the creation of God, all of the people in this world are deserve to have an ideal life partner because God loves us very much, so he won’t want to let us live in this world alone. The problem is to see whether we will choose the correct person since that there are so many people in this world. Moreover, I believe that there is only one person that is suitable for each of us. So, on the way of searching this guy or girl, we will face a lot of failure to gain experience to be the best for the right one. We will fall in and out of love many times and risk hurting or getting hurt in the process of finding our true love.

As we grow up, we will change and know what we want in the opposite sex. I am sure that almost the entire girl in this world like to have a life partner which will be patient to them and when they need them, they will appear in front of them. The most important is whether the guy loves them very much or not. Although these are the important condition, we still need to look into their heart whether they have true feeling on us, want to be with us and protect us forever. As an example, me, I would like to have a partner who have patient on me, a good listener for me, give advice when I need, respect me, support me, care much about me and not to control me to do this and that.

In order to have a partner as what we want on them, then we also need to think about what they want on us. Guys are different compare to girls. Girls like to talk about their problems while guys like to leave themselves alone to think of the way of solving the problem. Furthermore, guys will not talk to anybody about what is troubling them unless they need advice or opinion. So as a guy, they want their partner to trust them that they will solve everything by themselves for themselves even for their partner. Their partner will encourage and support them when they feel difficulties on solving problem. While we are on the way searching the partner who could fulfill the condition, we might hurt somebody or maybe we are the one who could get hurt.

The hurt could cause painful in our heart when we think about that, take our spirit away until we just stay in the moment of sadness. Throughout these experiences, we will learn and know how to handle hurt which is in our heart. Firstly, we might make ourselves occupied such as continue to do our job, make ourselves busy so we won't think about that hurt. Secondly, we could encourage ourselves that we learn many things in this relationship and we will choose a better partner and to be a better partner in the future. Thirdly, tell them that we could have a better life without them. On the other hand, if we might hurt somebody then is because of we never appreciate them, we never open our heart and try to understand them, they are not as perfect as we want,they can't fulfill the condition to be our partner, we give blank promise, don't have trust between both parties.

After we have experience these, we will learn to be mature if we had been childish. It is because if our thinking is childish, then we have a partner with mature thinking, they will feel that they are not a partner for us but to baby-sitting us. So, after that relationship, our thinking will change. We won't do any action that would show we are childish. So, I'm strictly agree that it is better to have loved and be hurt than not to have loved at all. This is a path which we have to go through to feel, learn and experience it than not to have loved at all.

Last but not least, I would like to advise all of you that if one day you found a guy or girl who treat you very good, then you need to appreciate them before you lose them. Besides that, you could refer to a book which could help us understand both men and women in love relationship which is " MEN ARE FROM MARS, WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS " By Dr. John Gray.

Thank you.